A WOMAN informed how she awoke surrounded in shattered glass and not figuring out the place she was after being crushed up by her ex – a Peaky Blinders and Coronation road extra who boasted of his telly roles on social media.
Hairdresser Lyndsey Yarwood, of Melksham, Wiltshire, solely informed Fabulous Digital what happened to her was “sad and scary”.
Cox and Lyndsey, pictured a month before their engagement
Oliver Cox, 33, seemed like a good boyfriend when he began wooing Lyndsey, 35, on on-line courting web site Plenty of Fish in early 2018.
What she didn’t realise is he had truly paid simply £36 to vary his identify and so dodge “Clare’s Law” – where individuals can lookup the histories of boyfriends to see if they have been convicted of home abuse.
Lyndsey advised Fabulous Digital how initially her relationship with Cox, who she met after five months of chatting on-line, was completely happy.
He wooed her with rose-petal baths, romantic dinners and by serving to the mum of two together with her youngsters. On 7 October 2018, he surprised her by proposing throughout a journey to London.
Cox, pictured as an extra on Peaky Blinders
Overwhelmed, Lyndsey accepted and started planning their life together.
“He was all the things you see in rom-coms: rose-petal baths, cooking dinner, sensible with the youngsters. And so plausible,” she stated.
But their newly engaged bliss shortly soured.
Ten days later Cox claimed Lyndsey’s ex had been sending him threatening messages on-line.
It later turned out he was sending the messages to himself from a pretend Instagram account.
Then on 19 November 2018, they hosted an engagement social gathering with buddies.
But after going house, Lyndsey woke in the midst of the night time with Cox proper subsequent to her “looking angry”.
Cox, pictured on the set of Coronation Road
He admitted that he took steroids
She defined: “He grabbed my wrist and started accusing me of cheating on him. He was going through my phone and calling me a slag.”
He then smashed up his telephone, prompting Lyndsey to go to mattress in tears.
However the subsequent morning he claimed he couldn’t keep in mind something from the night time before and simply stated: “Oh my god, I’m so sorry”.
Believing he was real, Lyndsey agreed to overlook it.
But on eight December 2018, Lyndsey acquired a worrying message on Fb from Cox’s ex-girlfriend who urged her to “look into his past”.
She was aware of Clare’s Regulation and contacted Wiltshire Police and asked them to run a search on him.
She was relieved to be informed there was nothing of concern in his past and put the message right down to his ex being a jilted love rival.
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Lyndsey spoke of her horror after being attacked
Then, while celebrating his birthday in December 2018, they argued on a night time out, with Cox accusing her of “ruining my birthday”.
Once they obtained back to the lodge he grabbed her and punched her within the face, leaving her with two black eyes and bruises to her body.
Lyndsey stated: “I awoke in a utterly totally different space of the room dealing with the window and I appeared round. There was glass all over the place, simply shattered glass far and wide.
“I do not understand how long I might been unconscious for.
“I begin packing the luggage, I acquired modified out of my night time garments and I stated ‘I’m going house’ however he adopted me.
“I drove the automotive to the primary part of the automotive park and stopped.
“I stated ‘I am not going anyplace with you’. He jumped out of the automotive, got here round to the opposite aspect then punched me in the jaw twice. Then he bundled me over to the passenger aspect.
Cox, pictured training with Ricky Hatton
Steroid-addled Cox repeatedly changed his identify
“He stated ‘if I can not be with you I’d as nicely finish it now’. I just stored quiet.
“He stopped on the storage and received me a chilly pack of bacon to placed on my bruise.
“I was hoping he was faking his threats for attention but I had it in my thoughts that he might probably kill us. I was considering ‘oh my god, the youngsters are going to haven’t any mum’.”
The subsequent day, Lyndsey determined sufficient was enough and fled to her mum’s.
Lyndsey reported Cox to Wiltshire Police for his violence and later discovered he had changed his identify by deed ballot to Bartholomew Milben.
And sickeningly, 5 days prior to attacking Lyndsey, brute Cox had even shared a submit on Facebook praising Clare’s Regulation as one thing that not solely helps ladies but can “defend men who have been labelled”.
I awakened in a utterly totally different area of the room dealing with the window and I appeared around. There was glass in all places, simply shattered glass far and wide.
On 27 February he admitted assault by occasioning actual bodily hurt after attacking the only mum however walked free from courtroom with an 18-week suspended sentence.
Cox, of Portsmouth, was given a two-year restraining order from contacting Lyndsey and ordered to pay her £725 compensation, £115 sufferer surcharge and £85 courtroom prices.
He blamed his behaviour on his use of steroids however claimed he was “not a monster”.
Lyndsey blasted: “I’m pretty positive it’s going to take for him to truly kill somebody for the courts to punish him correctly.
“No marvel ladies don’t undergo with pressing expenses for domestic violence.
“He was given a restraining order, but there’s nothing to stop him standing outside my house as long as he doesn’t contact me.”
Lyndsey determined to speak out to call for a change in the regulation to make sure that anyone who modifications their identify by deed ballot stays linked to the earlier moniker.
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Lyndsey was heartbroken when she was attacked
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Lyndsey exhibits off injury to her neck
She stated: “I’ve no concept why he did not come up on Clare’s Regulation. He managed to get by means of one way or the other.
“The quantity of telephone calls I needed to make was unbelievable.
“I feel with Clare’s Regulation, each single recorded identify needs to be linked to the identical individual.
“It prices £36 to vary your identify by deed ballot. There needs to be a register for offenders that folks can simply go on.
“The toughest thing for ladies on this state of affairs is you assume together with your heart.
“I simply pray the subsequent victim doesn’t fall for his conman ways his sob tales. I hope enough individuals see his face and see what he’s capable of.”
She believes Cox slipped via the web because he repeatedly modifications his identify – previously calling himself Darren Berry, Bart Milben and different variations of these.”
Who have been Cox’s other victims?
The yr before attacking Lyndsey, Cox was found responsible of assault by beating and given 100 hours of group service, a rehabilitation course and a restraining order stopping him from contacting ex-girlfriend Rosie Benson.
Rosie met Cox on Facebook in 2016 however after courting him for 18 months they broke up – nevertheless she says he continued to turn up at her house.
She claims she would find him sleeping in her outdoors rest room constructing or in his automotive and he even faked seizures for sympathy.
Rosie, from Bolton, Lancashire, stated: “It has been hell. He’d knocked on my door after punching himself in the face to say he’d been attacked not far away.
“I would think ‘how many times can you be attacked around the corner?’ We didn’t live in a bad area at all.”
Jen Atherton considers herself one of the ‘lucky ones’ as she was not attacked by Cox – though Merseyside Police still informed him to cease any further contact together with her.
Jen, from Wirral, Merseyside, stated: “On Fb once I was talking to him he was Bart Milben.
“He had an empty scrapbook for us to put our reminiscences in for the longer term, and a Beauty and the Beast-style rose. I might only been chatting with him for a week.
“Two days later, he got here to my house with a massive bunch of flowers.
“We have been watching TV and he made a few snide comments that I hadn’t taken a picture of the flowers and posted them on social media.
“I might see he was messaging women and I stated ‘you are having a go at me about not posting the photographs of flowers – you’re messaging women?’
“He went mental. He was stomping round the house, shouting. He said he was going to kill himself.”
Even after they broke up, Cox wouldn’t depart her alone and she was pressured to contact the police.
Jen stated: “He was giving me s*** for about two weeks. I called the police. They [told him he was not to contact me].”
A Wiltshire Police spokeswoman stated: “This case has been referred to our Professional Standards Department and a review is currently ongoing to determine what happened in this case and why a disclosure was not made. “Due to this investigation, it would be inappropriate to comment further.”
When contacted for remark, Cox stated: “I modified my identify to Bartholomew by deed poll.
“It was for a recent begin and a signal of a new me, however I did it at a time once I was very confused about myself.
“What occurred that night time is disgusting and shouldn’t have happened. It ruined what might have been a sensible relationship.
“I ain’t a monster. I’ve had some critical issues unfortunately, once I’ve had a drug habit and took steroids.
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Rosie Benson was another target of Cox’s
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He additionally charmed Jan Atherton – she’s pictured with him right here
“Unfortunately because I had a mental health drawback you’re adding to a chemical imbalance in your brain.
“There’s individuals out [there] and ladies that get into certain conditions.
“What I need to achieve from this now’s assist ladies in this state of affairs and additionally help males who have psychological well being [issues] and do not know the best way to deal with relationships.
“I’ve admitted my wrongs, I’m not hiding away from that and I need to do things to assist other individuals sooner or later.
“I am not condoning what occurred that night time with me and Lyndsey – I hate it. I am mortified by it and I cry each day.
“I have accepted responsibility for what has happened.”
What’s Clare’s Regulation?
Wiltshire Police is conducting an inner assessment into how it handled Lyndsey’s “Clare’s Law” request – which is known as after Clare Woods, 36, who was murdered by her boyfriend George Appleton in Salford, Gtr Manchester, in 2009.
Her dad Michael Brown campaigned for the introduction of Clare’s Regulation, arguing her demise would have been prevented had she recognized her companion’s historical past.
In 2014 the regulation – knowns because the Home Violence Closure Scheme – was handed, allowing police to disclose info on request about a associate’s previous historical past of domestic violence or violent acts.
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